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There are so many people that are all kinds of things, we will get back to that later, but when I talk about the immense personalities that are out there today from needy to narcissistic its mindboggling. I'm still compiling my list on that subject. I am going to name many personality types you can encounter in the dating pool these days and how to spot and be aware of each. OK, now back to the subject. So what I mean by the title of this entry is for example, I tell guys that they will treat me with respect at all times, and will not put up with disrespect. A lot of people are going to go straight to talking about sex. I don't care if I am on a sex website "YOUR GOING TO TREAT ME WITH SOME RESPECT". Period. If they are vulgar, disrespectful, obscene, profane or playing mind games let that person know your not going to put up with the behavior and leave it alone unless they show they can act more mature. IDK unless that's your kind of thing, people love to role play these days.

Make sure you tell them what you wont put up with.

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<h2 style="">Work On Yourself Before Dating Again</h2>We all have been there when we are just getting out of a relationship and we are devastated and then it's time to get back out there. So how do we do that? It's cool whether you're getting a divorce, getting out of a relationship, or even a situationship it's not easy, but you can make it fun and tolerable, and it starts with your attitude towards dating again. If you expect the worst and that's all you focus on then it will be a bad experience for you. I firmly believe in the energy that you put out, you get back. That means if you put out negative energy then you will put out negative energy and if you put out positive energy you get positive energy back. In my experience, I have found that people are deathly afraid of going back out to date because they hate starting over and going through all the motions, but think of it as the fun part. Oh by the way, dating is dating multiple people until you narrow it down to who you want to date exclusively (please don't rush the process) (Psst.......Don't feel guilty). Just be classy with it. These are some things that should be evaluated before you go out and start dating again.......<figure id="figure-qfm13g969cm33k7fto"><img id="qfm13g969cm33k7fto" src="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1455849318743-b2233052fcff?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wyNjI5NjF8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzb2NpYWwlMjBpbmZsdWVuY2V8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzMwNzU0NjE0fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" alt="two person standing on gray tile paving" title="two person standing on gray tile paving" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-lg md:rounded-xl lg:rounded-2xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1455849318743-b2233052fcff?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wyNjI5NjF8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzb2NpYWwlMjBpbmZsdWVuY2V8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzMwNzU0NjE0fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>1. Attitude-please approach people with respect. Vulgarity (that's just one negative trait you will find when your in the dating pool) is so unattractive unless that's what you in to. People have perversions that you wouldnt believe-We will talk down the road about perversions in Sex Talk.&nbsp;2.&nbsp; Communication3. &nbsp;Outward Appearance4.&nbsp; Weight Loss. BBWs and BBMs are in, but if your insecure about it then make the effort to lose it.5.&nbsp; Come into dating with no baggage or at least have good control it.6.&nbsp; Standards, Morals, and Manners-there will be post about this later.7.&nbsp; Hygiene and STDS-post later8.&nbsp; List Your likes and dislikes and dealbreakers and then see if you can return the favor.-post later9.&nbsp; Mental health-there will definitely be a post about this later. LOL &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

Work On Yourself Before Dating Again

Whatever situation your in, a friend with benefits, situationship, friendship, relationship, or any other "ship". Please do not post about your issues on social media. ITS VERY VERY DISRESPECTFUL and a sure end to your "ship". I can understand venting about your experiences, but relationship business needs to be kept PRIVATE. I am a person that believes in using a social media platform to vent for therapeutic purposes, such as asking for advise or venting your feelings, but putting subliminal messages out there about your mate is very disrespectful.

Posting About Your Other, whomever that is.......

<h2 style="padding-left: 80px;" data-mce-style="padding-left: 80px;">&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Friendship is the Key</h2>This is the key to a better, healthier relationship when your ready for one, is FRIENDSHIP. Building and starting a friendship first, you see potential, lead with friendship. Don't think it will be an unconditional love or damn near argueless relationship if you do not know that person thoroughly. There are characteristics and traits in people that you can tolerate and not tolerate and are dealbreakers, make sure you know yours very well before you embark on your dating journey. Yeah, I know, I know people jump into relationships all the time, some work, most don't, and I feel the reason why we have at least a 50% divorce rate in the US is because people don't take the time to be friends first with someone, and this goes for men and women. Why do you think that is? It is hard to find your soul mate or a perfect....imperfect partner.<figure id="figure-4mcf6i3mum33kx7hj"><img id="4mcf6i3mum33kx7hj" src="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1611641277344-9863d05647f4?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wyNjI5NjF8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyM3x8ZnJpZW5kc2hpcHxlbnwwfHx8fDE3MzA3NTg1NTB8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" alt="person holding gold ring in dark room" title="person holding gold ring in dark room" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-lg md:rounded-xl lg:rounded-2xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1611641277344-9863d05647f4?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wyNjI5NjF8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyM3x8ZnJpZW5kc2hpcHxlbnwwfHx8fDE3MzA3NTg1NTB8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>&nbsp;I believe in friends with benefits (FWB) where I can erect an unconditional mutually open friendship. FWB is not for everybody, but friendship is. Yes, that means truly, honestly have a friendship with the opposite sex even if your smitten with them (why rush the process). Stop being needy and lonely. Enjoy being around yourself. Most the time you will find that most people are not for you if you take your time and have a friendship, whew honey ,THAT PART!!!!!!. You find out all kinds of stuff about that person when you are genuinely friends with someone. There are difficulties with this arrangement, this is why this method is for very mature individuals only, but I love this process because no matter how long it takes I can truly get to know someone's personality and everyday traits, which can help me to eventually pick a long term partner.