Friendship is the Key

         Friendship is the Key

This is the key to a better, healthier relationship when your ready for one, is FRIENDSHIP. Building and starting a friendship first, you see potential, lead with friendship. Don't think it will be an unconditional love or damn near argueless relationship if you do not know that person thoroughly. There are characteristics and traits in people that you can tolerate and not tolerate and are dealbreakers, make sure you know yours very well before you embark on your dating journey. Yeah, I know, I know people jump into relationships all the time, some work, most don't, and I feel the reason why we have at least a 50% divorce rate in the US is because people don't take the time to be friends first with someone, and this goes for men and women. Why do you think that is? It is hard to find your soul mate or a perfect....imperfect partner.

 I believe in friends with benefits (FWB) where I can erect an unconditional mutually open friendship. FWB is not for everybody, but friendship is. Yes, that means truly, honestly have a friendship with the opposite sex even if your smitten with them (why rush the process). Stop being needy and lonely. Enjoy being around yourself. Most the time you will find that most people are not for you if you take your time and have a friendship, whew honey ,THAT PART!!!!!!. You find out all kinds of stuff about that person when you are genuinely friends with someone. There are difficulties with this arrangement, this is why this method is for very mature individuals only, but I love this process because no matter how long it takes I can truly get to know someone's personality and everyday traits, which can help me to eventually pick a long term partner.